Alonely: There’s a lot of misconceptions and assumptions made of the single older female. There are lots of times I’m in company and feel there are people there who are lonely though surrounded by people. If you’re alone are you automatically lonely? If you’re lonely are you automatically alone? Lonely and alone sometimes go together yes though they are not automatic bedfellows.
In my teens I wanted to be a recluse like Howard Hughes. ‘The recluse Howard Hughes’ was a line often on the news. I had no idea what it meant and wanting to be like that, I doubt I understood at the time or even now know what it really meant. For me it was more about having the amount of money he did so he could do what he wanted and if that was never be seen that was fine.
In my twenties, I spent many years needing the company of others. Now, I realise that was because I was not comfortable with my own company. Years of meditation and positive thinking helped with my self awareness and changed me to a point at which I am probably way too happy when on my own. Don’t get me wrong, I can be good company too, according to my friends..
Alone or lonely, are you either?
ps Researching Howard Hughes just now, I was shocked to find we share a birthday….
Well I do remember someone saying once that although they were married they were very lonely. And i believe that being around other people does show that you’re not alone but not necessarily that you are not lonely. They are two very different states.
Thanks for the comment Eve. Yes they are two very different states.