Know how to kiss? #AtoZchallenge

Kissing’s simple isn’t it?  Let it happen naturally and enjoy.  Now try writing about that very kiss.  I’m not even going to try. Well I might if you let me breath for a minute.  Let me catch my breath and steady myself as I fell into that one a bit quickly.  See?  I stumble even at the thought of writing about a kiss however innocent and enjoyable.  I get embarrassed thinking about it.

As you can guess there’s not much of this in my novels.  How any of you manage it I’ll never know.  It’s not in me to write about the more personal side of relationships. For me they kiss then have children then live happily ever after.. ok not quite that quick and I do have bedroom scenes but it’s for different reasons.. hmm.. Yeah I’ve even got myself intrigued by that comment..

Don’t get excited or your hopes up, in ‘Dream Gardener’ there’s a reason why Amir wants Elizabeth kept in the bedroom.  He blindfolds her and kisses her, that’s all. Then when the blindfold comes off the room’s completely transformed which is what’s needed for the storyline.


When I read kisses as written by some of you I’m completely transfixed.  I know I’ll never write like that but live in awe at those of you who can.  Keep it coming and I’ll lap it up. Oops maybe I’m learning.. tee hee.. sorry.. see that’s why I don’t even go there..

My AtoZchallenge posts are about writing, parts of my novels or some research I need to do for them.  I’m not allowing myself to write about anything other than topics linked to the books, my books.  The current titles that I’m writing about are ‘Bags’, ‘Holiday stories’ and ‘Dream Gardener’.


26 thoughts on “Know how to kiss? #AtoZchallenge

  1. I enjoyed your post. I have to admit that I think I’d be embarrassed to write explicit love scenes. In fact, I can feel myself blushing if I’m reading one with someone in the room. I do however have a few kissing scenes in my books, but it never goes beyond that. Partly because I want my books to be for everyone and I feel like there’s far too much ‘sex’ being thrown at you everywhere you look.

    Have fun with a-z.

    • Thanks Jessica. Ooh you used the S word.. I must admit, I’ve recently got more interested in reading sexy scenes though can never imagine writing them, as I worry I’d write from experience..

    • hmm.. yes I suppose it’s whether it’s needed for the story to move on or not. A bit like washing the dishes.. if there’s dialogue that explores more of a character or something happens which we need to know, then it’s worth exploring otherwise it’s fine that we skip the scene.

  2. Lynne, I’m so glad you wrote about this – it’s something I’m terrible at. If any kind of hanky panky is needed (see, I even describe it as hanky panky) I usually just leave the characters at the bedroom door and them have a reported summary! It’s not that I’m a prude, more that I just think I can’t write it without it sounding ridiculous. Just something I need to learn, I guess.

    • I’ve not even managed to write a scene to see if it sounds ridiculous or not. I giggle, blush and feel embarrassed just thinking of writing about ‘it’. tee hee
      Yes I’m glad I wrote this one too as they were beginning to get a bit serious and boring.. Here’s to a lighter second half of the alphabet.. No promises as I’ve not done any yet, will let the moment take me where it wants to.. ooh err.. probably not there again though.. I did think of Relationships for R.. it could be Raunchy and Revealing.. but I have Ridiculous Reservations. tee hee..
      oops.. just checked and it’s currently Research.. might need to change it or everyone will be turned off my novels by the time I get to Z..

  3. Kissing scenes are hard! I wrote about them for my A to Z post today too. It gets easier with practice though. (I’m talking about the writing kind here! Though reading helps too.)

    I think, because it’s a topic that makes us self conscious, that it’s easy to judge our writing of these kinds of scenes as inferior, but usually, they’re better than we think. (Or I hope so anyway!)

    Rinelle Grey

  4. Kiss! Great topic for K (haven’t thought of mine yet today). I too have an awful time when it comes to love scenes – in fact there aren’t any. I think I’d win that annual prize for the most badly written love scene. It all sounds so twee and silly – and I get giggly, because let’s face it, it’s all wet and sticky.

  5. As long as my kissing, etc scenes don’t win the Purple Prose Bad Sex in Writing Award, I guess I’m doing something right, ha ha. You’re right, it’s not always easy to come across as natural and avoid cliché when it comes to the kissing action. Enjoy your a to z journey!
    Jess / Blogging on the Brink

    • Thanks Jess. Enjoy.. hmm.. I remember what that word meant. Here’s hoping I can catch up this weekend and pop along to others more and comment, that’s what AtoZ’s supposed to be about!

  6. I tried writing a flash fiction kissing scene, and failed/froze after he leaned closer… definitely need to work on it … Maybe watching a movie kiss and describing that will help with worrying about being too personal or writing about your own experiences

  7. I struggle with kissing and intimate scenes too. They always feel super cheesy and cliche to me. Some stories call for those scenes though so I have to suck it up and write them the best I can. Hopefully, my betas can help me out during edits.

  8. I feel your pain! I love a bit of romance, and am keen to have it in my stories (one of my WIPs currently is basically a romance, so it’s a bit unavoidable) but whenever I get to this point in the characters’ relationship, it can take me a day to write a paragraph because I get awkward and just stare at words and wonder oif this will actually sound any good to anyone else. Also, it never sounds as good on the page as it does in my head (though I find this isn’t just an issue when it comes to kissing scenes).

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