Spicy, single and struggling #atozchallenge

When I discussed this theme with a friend and came up with ‘I feel’ they immediately thought I should change it to we feel as apparently I am always thinking of others and as e showed I see things from others point of view. As I started writing these posts I’ve realised my blog is very purposefully for me and about me so I’m standing up for myself and celebrating my singledom.

I used to think people who lived on their own were sad and lonely. There were times I couldn’t bare to be alone with me. Those days are, thankfully, long gone and now I love spending time on my own. Rather too much maybe.

Whilst I struggle with the labels I and others give me we’ve all be struggling with some letters in this challenge. Many of the struggling letters come at the end of the alphabet which means we’ve got to know each other a bit by now I hope and we will be anxiously awaiting to see how our blogging friends have tackled the U’s, X’s, Y’s and Z’s. I think I might be searching for lots of things while tackling this challenge.

What does my sketch for today have to do with my show don’t tell?  Nothing much, I was struggling for a sketch and I fell into the comfort of my shadow. The tulips in my garden were begging me to sketch their shadows so I did.

shadow tulips

Show don’t tell.

She was spicy, single and struggling.


Her hair smelled of cinnamon, he noticed the worn clothes she had on which had been freshly washed and ironed and still found her very attractive as they came to the end of their five minutes during this weeks speed dating.

Lynne’s AtoZ blogging challenge theme in case you couldn’t tell:

Linked to thoughts of emotions and behaviours, my theme is ‘I feel….’. Writers among you will be familiar with the phrase show don’t tell, for others it’s what every novelist tries to do. Authors want to show you the emotion and behaviour without telling you it. Trying to practice showing not telling, I have included an example in each post. I may have got it right, I may not have. Please let me know.

Here’s who else is doing the AtoZblogging challenge.


9 thoughts on “Spicy, single and struggling #atozchallenge

  1. I like your strong statement that your blog is purposefully for you. It’s something I’ve wondered about both fiction bloggers and essayists ( is that what we are?) I assume (perhaps incorrectly) that fiction authors write for others. I’ve not been sure about me – feeling somewhat selfish saying I write for me. But I do.

    I don’t think being sad and lonely is correlated with being single or living with a partner. I was rarely lonely when I was single. I have experienced loneliness even while married. I think there is a vast difference between being alone and being lonely.

    You made me think today!

  2. Whether we set out to please ourselves or others, we can only be truly satisfied if we’re successful in our initial aim. I have the option of sitting in my wife’s company for many hours a week, being a companion as she flicks through the channels to find something to keep me there.
    I don’t do it – and she knows I’m far happier spending time doing what I want to do – which is write. I like the solitude, and I think it would be foolhardy to give up writing for so long each day simply to remove a minor attack of guilt.
    How can I put this comment in perspective? I’ve been married 37 years, but I’ve only been writing for the last 6 of them.
    Live your life Lynne, and if other people don’t like it – continue living your life.

  3. P.S. I like the picture. You may not have realised it, but it is very symbolic … one bloom stands alone, while the others are grouped together. Now, is it just me seeing that? lol

    • That’s what I enjoy, creating a garden and producing the shadow paintings. Not normally this wash and ink, usually acrylic and larger. Yes, they’re normally symbolic in some way but no, I hadn’t noticed how apt this one is to this post.

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